Comments on: NCT – Laughter, sobbing, support and lot of cake

By: Heathers cake classes

Heathers cake classes — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 09:35:11 +0000

I suppose it depends on the area your from, I was in a meet for a city group and people seemed to keep themselves to themselves most of the time.

By: Nova

Nova — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 21:14:59 +0000

How lovely that you are still all good friends.
I must admit even I went reluctantly to my NCT classes that I attended when pregnant with number 2 ( I wanted the breastfeeding support)
We never even all met up afterwards, some of the husbands were very strange.

By: Brit in Bosnia

Brit in Bosnia — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:13:21 +0000

I had a very similar experience and found my NCT group to be great. We have moved around a bit, but are still in touch. There is nothing that hasn’t been discussed, which makes for a much more relaxed time of it. We know each others parenting strengths and weaknesses and it doesn’t matter.

I should probably add that the NCT group we went to was not big time into natural child birth. They wanted to explain what the options were and what the options meant – but there was no criticism, no sense of failure if you used pain relief. I’m very grateful for that, but I have heard that it is different in different parts of the country and RasMbisis’s comment above shows that it can be very detrimental.

By: RookieMommy

RookieMommy — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:08:57 +0000

When it came to giving birth I didn’t remember much about what they taught us in pre-natal classes, but I too met some great gals in those classes who became my comrades through thick and thin in our rookie mommy days. Sadly they are back in Vancouver and I miss them

By: RasMbisi

RasMbisi — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 16:34:07 +0000

Quite frankly i hated the members of my NCT group, sanctimonous cows. After a 37 hr labour (no pain relief) I had to have a C-section. Apparently I ‘just didn’t try hard enough’ Whenever i bumped into the self appointed ‘leader’ of the gang, she would look into the pram and sigh ‘poor little thing, she’d be so much better off if she’d had a normal birth’!! I’d just like to point out for the record, i breast fed (her and both the subsequent ones) for 13 months each, they all met every target, did better in SATs than any of that groups children and are happy well adjusted kids. The self appointed leader on the other hand? 10 years on, on her 3rd husband and has had 2 of her children taken into care – and such a nice middle class family!! Revenge is a dish best served cold methinks! and yes, i am aware that i ’should’ rise above and poor children, but her bullying (trust me the above isn’t even a quarter of what she did) drove me nearly to suicide, so little sympathy

By: @goonerjamie

@goonerjamie — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 16:01:15 +0000

At our class the midwife had the nastiest, skankiest, dirtiest baby doll in the world, ever. It looked like it had survived a nuclear blast (just). Needless to say it scared a lot of the young Mums, and left me in severe hysterics.

By: audreyhorneforever

audreyhorneforever — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 15:57:02 +0000

Well, you won’t be surprised to know that I’m weeping whilst reading this! I agree with every sentence – what would I have done without you all? Through the struggle of those early baby days, through to the hardest experience I’ve ever faced, you were all there and I’ll love you all forever.

We were possibly the luckiest NCT group in the entire universe

By: Mwa

Mwa — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:49:52 +0000

What a wonderful thing. I wish I had a group of friends like that.

By: Emily O

Emily O — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:26:59 +0000

Ante-natal classes can be so good at setting you up with some brilliant friends. I still meet with friends from mine each week. Funnily enough I’ve got a half-written post on NCT classes, when I finally finish it I’l link to yours. It was a great place to meet people, just found the advice a bit biased.

By: Dulwich Divorcee

Dulwich Divorcee — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 12:17:19 +0000

I so agree with you, Laura – still in touch with a couple of friends from my NCT group, in fact one is coming to do the 14 year old’s birthday on Saturday as she has retrained as a beauty therapist and is going to pamper a houseful of teenagers! I think I would have stayed in touch with more of the group if I hadn’t promptly left the country for 8 years – they were a great bunch, I was lucky